Essential Manners for Grooms–“gifts”

A question I  was asked last week by a groom was…

"Josh …. gifts to ushers, best men, page boys etc  ….  Do I have to give one?”

Well, I explained that giving gifts shouldn’t be a chore; it should be a pleasure.

If someone goes out of their way for you, you should show a little appreciation for the effort by offering the person a gift.

The ushers, traditionally called Groomsmen are those guys who are closest to you and have played an important part in the groom’s life.  It’s an significant position for someone who is important to the groom, and whom the groom wants to be a visible part of his wedding. He might be a close friend, brother, cousin or father.

While a groom will want to have his best buddies and the men in his life that means the most to him, he should also make sure that  this group is responsible enough to handle their duties, or at least one person willing to pick up the slack for the others.  They are not simply there to organise a stag do before the event!

The gift  – a small one – doesn’t have to be elaborate or very expensive. It should simply say, “Thank you for being here for me.” It may be a nice pen, or a money clip, or a leather wallet.

Some ideas for the last few weddings we’ve attended have been – personalised (engraved) cufflinks, sunglasses, money boxes, Yo yos, wallets, sweets, lighters, keyrings, football shirts, travel clocks, leather wash bags, drinks.

Gifts can be given anytime at a number of different points during the wedding preparations but we recommend that the gifts are part of your grooms speech, as friends, family and partners will be present altogether. Not only can the groom give the gift, he can say something to the group at the same time. 

There’s no rule that says you have to give a gift but it is a nice token and having that little bit of attention that comes from you taking a few minutes to give them a gift will make the event very special and memorable for the receiver.


~ by spacebar on May 1, 2013.

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